Written By: Maggie Brown (maggiethe_journslist)
If you’ve been on social media these past few months aimlessly strolling through TikTok, Facebook, or X (Twitter), then I’m almost certain you’ve come across the discourse being had surrounding dating.
Whether it’s from users posting their Podcast clips, a dating coach giving unsolicited dating advice, or some random person sharing a dating story; you’ve pretty much heard it all.
From the Passport Bros discussing how their dating experience is better outside of the United States, to user’s discussing traditional vs non traditional partners and the roles they should assume. Let’s not forget the users who are married or the single people trying to convince you how they believe dating should be … it’s exhausting!
None of the conversations are ever original. It’s always the same regurgitated 50/50 conversation, how long should a man wait to propose, hookup culture, soft girl/ soft guy era – blah, blah blah.
Truth of the matter is, dating “correctly” is sometimes best learned through trial and error. Knowing how to spot red flags early on is one way to filter through potential partners.
Spotting red flags while dating someone new involves paying attention to their behavior, actions, and how they make you feel. Here are some signs to watch out for:
- Lack of Communicationd : If they’re secretive or avoid discussing important topics.
- Controlling Behavior: They try to dictate what you do or who you spend time with.
- Disrespectful Behavior: They consistently disregard your feelings or boundaries.
- Inconsistency: Their words and actions don’t align, or they frequently cancel plans.
- Jealousy and Possessiveness: They exhibit jealousy or try to control your interactions with others.
- Disregard for Others: They show a lack of empathy or mistreat others, like waitstaff or family members.
- History of Failed Relationships: If they consistently blame others for past breakups without taking responsibility.
- Addiction Issues: Substance abuse or addictive behaviors that impact their life negatively.
- Rapid Intensity: Moving too quickly in the relationship or declaring love too soon.
- Manipulative Behavior: They use guilt, gaslighting, or manipulation tactics to control you.
It’s important to trust your instincts and prioritize your own well-being. If something feels off, it’s worth exploring further or seeking advice from trusted friends or professionals.
