A message from Alabama dads to their sons: ‘Black fathers are present’ | LookWeAreIncluded.com

Dear Alvin, “Do justly, to love mercy and walk humbly with your God.” -Dad

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By: Allison Sanders, Educator and Digital Contributor

A message from Alabama fathers to their black son(s).

“Most black kids are not fatherless,” said Josh Levs in a 2016 HuffPost article.

Dear Black Son,

Dear Shaun, “Believe God’s process.” -Dad

Fatherhood exists in Black communities. Black father figures are not extinct, and they love and value their children. Employment obligations nor life’s challenges derail Black fathers from their paternal relationships or responsibilities. These men embrace their role with pride.

Many African-American fathers have high expectations and help cultivate the character, intellect, spirit, and physical abilities of their sons. These fathers know and understand what it is to be a man, and more importantly, what it means to be a Black man.

An even more frightening concept is the idea of being a Black man in America. Men have concerns of inferiority, being viewed as a threat and, what we’ve seen over the past month, experiences of police brutality.

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The current tragedies that Black parents of Ahmaud Arbery, George Floyd, Breonna Taylor and so many others have faced have resurfaced concerns, even fears. The heart-wrenching cries of their parents compel us to embrace our sons and daughters tighter. These familiar and realistic horror tales demand us to refocus and relight the path of progress that has been long abandoned. We are now, more than ever, determined to enforce change.

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Black fathers understand that if their sons are to be resilient when the demands of life meet them, it is very important for them to build within them the foundation of security, self worth, and fortitude, especially in a nation that appears to exhibit resistance to the peace and success of Black men.

Dear Joshua, Don’t be afraid to lead.

African-American fathers bring knowledge and wisdom to the table, and feed their sons with strength (sustenance) necessary to push through racial profiling, character assassination, limited opportunities, disdain, unfair policies, inequality, false accusations, and other racist actions that can determine the life or death of a Black man. All of the aforementioned stem from misconceptions.
One familiar misconception is the ‘absent black father’. The torch of African- American fatherhood is too often dimmed because of this ongoing myth, which continues to persist even among those in the African-American community, despite the overlooked fathers in our churches, workplaces and schools.

“Fatherlessness is not defined by living arrangement,” said Saeed Richardson, pastor of the First Baptist Church of Waukegan.

The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) and Prevention report, ‘Fathers’ Involvement with Their Children’, shows the majority of Black fathers live with their children (2.5 million versus 1.7 million who do not).

The report further stated that whether living in the same home or not, Black fathers are the most involved of ALL primary recorded race and ethnic groups. African-American fathers who live with their children are actually the most involved fathers of ALL, on average, a CDC study found.

Why is it important for a father to be involved in his son’s life?

It is simple. Although the love of mothers is widely celebrated, there are numerous benefits of fatherhood that are overlooked and downplayed. According to various studies, a few benefits of fatherhood include:

(The Fatherhood Project, 2015; Department of Health & Human Services; Children’s Bureau, 2017)

  • Promotes social and language skills
  • Supports greater academic success
  • Encourages self-control and better conduct
  • Fosters emotional development
  • Leads to positive self esteem
  • Teaches how to deal with stress
  • Reduces depression
  • Promotes more exploratory, independent behavior

Though the presence of African-American fathers is undermined, it is evident that the ‘engaged Black father’ is not a myth, but a reality.  Black fathers who accept the commitment of parenting build community through their efforts, thereby developing a productive, stable, healthy, confident, and competent generation of men.

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Alabama dad raises up to $1,000 in 24 hours for single moms during National Pandemic | LookWeAreIncluded.com

Please Donate HERE via Cash App: $inglemomcovid19

A Fairfield native is bringing hope to single mothers in his community after starting a fundraiser to combat the COVID-19 crisis.

Omar Young, a Miles College graduate is the creator-founder of the COVID-19 Single Mom Stimulus’ Program and community changer. In addition to his new initiative, Young also started ‘My Sweetheart Bakery’ right in his hometown and coaches youth football to mentor young men in the Birmingham area.

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Omar Young, Ramsay High School rising Senior pictured with his dad (Omar Young Senior) after a football game.

“Covid-19 Single Mom Stimulus From the Fellas, was something started from a need. Dr. AG Gaston stated, “find a need and fill it.” So, we hope to fill that need. I’ve watched so many single moms struggle whole times were well, I knew these times would bring more strife. I wanted to figure out how we can minimize those burdens. I have friends that are single moms and I hear what they are facing. I have friends and their moms were single parents, I hear their stories,” Omar told LookWeAreIncluded.com.

On Tuesday April 7, around 11: 23 a.m. Young posted his idea on Facebook letting his followers know that some children in the area were going hungry, due to job cuts from the national crisis. “It’s some single moms out here struggling right now and don’t know which way to turn,” Omar wrote on Facebook so he asked how many people would be willing to help turn this situation around.

He proposed his Facebook friends to give a maximum of $5 a month to the $inglemomcovid19 (Cash App) account and single mothers would be chosen by a raffle  give-a-way on Facebook live.

Please Donate HERE via Cash App: $inglemomcovid19

Screen Shot 2020-04-08 at 2.56.47 PMOnce the post went public, over 100 people commented on his Facebook post and donations started rolling in.

This good deed spread like wildfire with more people in the community wanting to help and single- mother’s receiving random acts of kindness.

“I feel so blessed thank you,” Shun Blackgirl Davis wrote on Facebook.

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“Ultimately, the kid is the one who really suffer. I saw the food banks and everything, but I wanted them to have money in hand to choose to their liking. And Covid 19 Single Mom Stimulus was birthed,” Omar Young told LookWeAreIncluded.com

If you would like to contribute via cash app here is the name: $inglemomcovid19 and for more ways you can help please reach out to Omar Young through Facebook Book: HERE

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